JACKSON, MI – The suspicions of the male half of Jackson Creek
First Baptist Church's Wednesday evening young adult Bible study
were quickly confirmed when Assistant Pastor Harry Waters – who
announced at the beginning of the January 14th study that the normally
unisex gathering would be split with men in the basement and women in
the adult ed wing – somewhat clumsily steered the conversation in
the direction of lust and sexual sin.
"It was so contrived," said Tom Lighting, a long-time study
attendee. "As soon as he announced that the study was gonna be split
between the men and women to 'facilitate a more open dialogue,' we [the
men] all started shooting glances at one another. We knew what was coming."
Lighting said that once the women cleared out, Waters made a couple of
comments on the disgusting nature of the latest Christina Aguilera video
and then went straight into "so, how many of you guys are struggling
with sexual sin right now?"
"It was such an awkward transition and such an uncomfortable moment,"
Lighting said. "No one spoke for like five minutes, and then it
was just all in generalities about how hard it is to stay pure. Stay pure?
What the heck is that? I wanted to crawl underneath the stack of old pews
in the corner."
Waters defended his tactics.
"I wasn't trying to fool anyone," he said. "Once
the ladies left, I just opened it up, and that's where the conversation
led, and I'm glad it did. The only way to deal with this sensitive
issue is to discuss it freely amongst a group of males who know each other
casually from church."
For the women's part, they seemed completely oblivious to any hidden
motives behind the split study.
"I thought it was great to have it be just us girls," said
Ruth Mason, 25, who has been attending the study for about six months.
"We talked so openly about how hard it is to be a strong Christian
woman in today's workplace. There was a lot of hugging and crying."
Despite the reported awkwardness on the men's side, Waters was
encouraged by the study and plans to start having the divided sessions
on a regular basis.
"I saw some materials from Focus on the Family that I thought would
be a good starting point," Waters said. "You know, if the
free and open conversation takes us, ahem, there again."
Lighting, for one, hopes that Waters follows through on that plan.
"At least that way I'll know which weeks to skip,"
he said.
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